Sunday, February 27, 2011
Lables
I don't like them, I don't like putting them on people, and I don't want my kids to have to have them. My two year old has an appointment with his doctor this week so we can discuss him possibly having ADHD. I have been ignoring the signs for a while. Well, I have noticed them, but just said it was him being a 2 year old. I have been doing lots of research on the matter and it is like they are talking about my little man! I know, looking on the internet is not always a good idea. I know a lot of what he does is very typical for his age, but not to the magnitude that he does them. When he was one, I noticed that when he got angry or frustrated, he would hit himself. I thought it was a faze, but it hasn't ended. I don't like to yell, but lets face it, it happens sometimes! Anyway, Jamie does not react well to yelling, he seems to get more frustrated. I also noticed that when he was one. We have to talk to him in a calm voice and that seems to calm him down. He is the most active 2 year I have ever seen! And I have been around a lot of kids. The kid never stops! When he does manage to sit, it isn't for very long and he is always moving something. I want to get him help, but at the same time, this is my Jamie! He did something the other week (that I won't go into detail about) that scared us half to death. That was about all we could take. I know that the doctors won't make a formal diagnosis since he is only 2, but we needs tools on how to make things easier for all of us. I want to jump on this before he starts school. I would like to keep him off of medication.....of course, when he gets to school and absolutely needs it, then that is a different story. I posted something on BlogFrog asking for advice and I was surprised at how many parents are going through the same thing, and with their 2 and 3 year olds. I was happy to see that, but at the same time not happy just because that meas there are a lot of kids out there with this problem. But....I feel silly for talking about this or worrying about it because there are so many kids out there facing things that are much more serious than ADHD. Anyway, I am hoping to get some answers on Friday. I can see that Jamie is frustrated also, as are we.
Monday, February 21, 2011
Marriage
First, I want to start off by saying that I don't want to offend anyone with this post. I just want to talk about what works for us. I'm not here to criticize others. We have just been talking about marriage in bible study and it got me thinking. As I was sitting in bible study the other week, I just sat back and listened to what the other ladies were saying. I did realize that I do not share the same thoughts and feelings as these ladies....about some things. So, I thought I would write a post about it. Like I said, this is what we do and it seems to work for us :)
I am a pretty modern girl. I don't really believe in gender roles....as in like I am the only one that cooks because I am a girl. I really like that my husband and I share the roles/duties. If something needs to be cleaned, Eric will do it. He won't wait for me because it is "my job." I love to cook, so I do the majority of that. But, when I was growing up, my dad did almost all of the cooking. Some wives enjoy cleaning, cooking, and all that because their husband works and they feel they need to do that...which is fine. My husband works very hard and we really appreciate that. I don't ask him to do everything for us, but he helps out with things, especially when I am at work. I think that is setting a good example for our boys, to see mommy and daddy working together on things. My hubby is really good at cleaning the bathroom..haha...and he doesn't mind doing it and it gets so clean :) It usually works out that he does things that I don't like doing and he doesn't mind doing it. Like the bathrooms, or ironing. I am weird and don't mind doing the laundry. I have been known to "yell" at him for helping with the laundry...haha! Anyway, I like that we share the responsibilities.
Working is another huge thing for me. I started babysitting when I was 13 and have always had a job since....well, there were some breaks in there, but I didn't like that! I know that I cannot be a stay at home mom, it just isn't me. I don't want to be working 60 hours a week though. I like that at my current job, I work about 24 hours a week. I get that little break from the boys, even though I miss them like crazy, but then I get to come home and play! My family needs me to work right now. Things are tough here. We are making it and things will work out, but I need to work. In these times, it is hard to stay home. Some people are fortunate enough to have a spouse that can provide for all their needs. However, I see so many families that it just isn't working. Oh well. I like working. I like that I am also providing for my family. I felt so bad when I wasn't working, I didn't think it was fair to put all that stress on Eric. I want our boys to have what they need. I want to do special things with them. I don't want to spoil them rotten though :) We try our hardest to do things as a family, nothing big and expensive, but fun things that hopefully the kids will remember. We go to the zoo, apple picking, parks, I love doing things as a family! We do get our breaks from the kids though and those are nice also. I would rather save some money to have a nice dinner out with the kids every few months than buy myself something foolish.
We don't always agree on things, but we are getting better at talking about things. I am one of those people that will give the silent treatment when I am mad. Eric tries so hard to get me to talk to him and I just won't. I know that is something that I need to work on....believe me, I am trying! We are still growing in our marriage, making it stronger everyday. I could write more, but I won't share everything! I hope this post made sense....haha, it kind of jumps around. Bottom line, we work together, share the duties, talk about what we want, where we want to go, we appreciate each other what what we do for the family. I think my hubby is the best! We get angry at times, annoyed, but then some one does something or says something funny. We laugh a lot in our home. I love you hubby!!
I am a pretty modern girl. I don't really believe in gender roles....as in like I am the only one that cooks because I am a girl. I really like that my husband and I share the roles/duties. If something needs to be cleaned, Eric will do it. He won't wait for me because it is "my job." I love to cook, so I do the majority of that. But, when I was growing up, my dad did almost all of the cooking. Some wives enjoy cleaning, cooking, and all that because their husband works and they feel they need to do that...which is fine. My husband works very hard and we really appreciate that. I don't ask him to do everything for us, but he helps out with things, especially when I am at work. I think that is setting a good example for our boys, to see mommy and daddy working together on things. My hubby is really good at cleaning the bathroom..haha...and he doesn't mind doing it and it gets so clean :) It usually works out that he does things that I don't like doing and he doesn't mind doing it. Like the bathrooms, or ironing. I am weird and don't mind doing the laundry. I have been known to "yell" at him for helping with the laundry...haha! Anyway, I like that we share the responsibilities.
Working is another huge thing for me. I started babysitting when I was 13 and have always had a job since....well, there were some breaks in there, but I didn't like that! I know that I cannot be a stay at home mom, it just isn't me. I don't want to be working 60 hours a week though. I like that at my current job, I work about 24 hours a week. I get that little break from the boys, even though I miss them like crazy, but then I get to come home and play! My family needs me to work right now. Things are tough here. We are making it and things will work out, but I need to work. In these times, it is hard to stay home. Some people are fortunate enough to have a spouse that can provide for all their needs. However, I see so many families that it just isn't working. Oh well. I like working. I like that I am also providing for my family. I felt so bad when I wasn't working, I didn't think it was fair to put all that stress on Eric. I want our boys to have what they need. I want to do special things with them. I don't want to spoil them rotten though :) We try our hardest to do things as a family, nothing big and expensive, but fun things that hopefully the kids will remember. We go to the zoo, apple picking, parks, I love doing things as a family! We do get our breaks from the kids though and those are nice also. I would rather save some money to have a nice dinner out with the kids every few months than buy myself something foolish.
We don't always agree on things, but we are getting better at talking about things. I am one of those people that will give the silent treatment when I am mad. Eric tries so hard to get me to talk to him and I just won't. I know that is something that I need to work on....believe me, I am trying! We are still growing in our marriage, making it stronger everyday. I could write more, but I won't share everything! I hope this post made sense....haha, it kind of jumps around. Bottom line, we work together, share the duties, talk about what we want, where we want to go, we appreciate each other what what we do for the family. I think my hubby is the best! We get angry at times, annoyed, but then some one does something or says something funny. We laugh a lot in our home. I love you hubby!!
Sunday, February 20, 2011
Brothers
Brothers are a wonderful thing! I think this picture is so funny. I got Jamie as he was moving his hand, but the look on Oliver's face is priceless! Jamie loves being a big brother...and I hope it stays that way! We were lucky enough to not have any jealousy problems after Oliver was born. I cannot wait until Oliver is older and can actaully play with his big brother. Jamie "plays" with him now, but it will be great when Oliver can play back. 
Oliver watches Jamie like a hawk which might not be a good thing :) Oliver laughs at things that Jamie does, talks to him, and gives him huge smiles all the time. When Oliver cries, Jamie is right there giving him his blanket, his pacifier, talking to him, or giving him hugs. These things that he does, Oliver loves them and stops crying. Jamie is such a good big brother and is a great example to Oliver....we will just forget about the crazy things Jamie does!
Friday, February 11, 2011
Blizzard 2011
I am a little slow to post about our big blizzard the day :) I got to enjoy the day home with the boys...snow day for mom! It wasn't fun digging out though. Well, I sat inside and watched! It took a few hours to get everything clear. It was nice snow to play in, so Jamie enjoyed some play time before his nap.
This is the sidewalk leading up to our house. The snow here and in the driveway, were taller than the snow blower. It is crazy because this week the snow has been melting. We don't have near as much as what we did last week. And, with temperatures in the 40's next week I don't think we will have much left.
See what I mean? Taller than the snow blower :)
The snow was fun to play in, but I'm glad spring is on the way. I think I am about done with winter.
Ok, can someone please help with my pictures?! I want to put like 3 of them in a row, but I can't figure out how to do that. Please help!!! I could do a bit, but I see so many blogs that have done cooler things with their pictures.
I got more pics of the boys, so I will be working on a post about them. You know, I should just write them as I think of them and publish later. Man, I'll get this thing figured out! There are a few things that I want to blog about. You might see a few posts from me this weekend :)
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